Been a week or two since I have posted anything for Sunday Morning so here is one for ya. I hope everyone enjoys the read, especially those folks who do not get the chance to go to a church service on Sunday. Also did not mean to miss lead anyone with the title. I just love Peanuts cartoons, dating myself just a little bit, and that was just a perfect lead in for today’s post. Want to start out by asking how many of us have ever felt grief or sorrow? You have experienced something that just broke your heart. I would think that we all have experience that in some shape form or fashion. What I would like to do is give you 2 different views on the grieving process and how we should do it. The Worlds view of Grief Management 1) Bury your feelings – I believe this is especially true of all the guys out there. Guys how many times have you been told in your life to suck it up, be a man. For the guys to show emotion is to show weakness. 2) Replace the loss – How many times have we heard when you lose something, Just get another one to replace it. When my rottie died, people asked me all the time was I going to get another rottie. When you lose anything, just get another one. 3) Grieve alone - 4) Time heals all sorrow Gods Grief management system 1) Feel and express your feelings – John 11:30-36. Is this not what this forum is all about, especially this part of the forum? I know that it has a tendency to get way off track some time and we may lose the idea of what this page started out being. I do not think that should be any such thing as a pity party on this page. If you are struggling with something, grieving over something share it, express yourself. I believe that society or the world has a tendency to tell us to bury or hide our feelings, especially for the men. Is this not the root of the idea of a “pity party”. How many times have we all seen this word on this page? I am struggling with something, crying my eyes out, but I feel like I am in a pity party, I need to suck it up. This is not what the Bible tells us, it tells us that Jesus wept. He felt grief and expressed it. Part of this page is Helping each other get through this thing we call Meniere’s Disease. I am more than happy to help anyone that I can. PM me if you are not comfortable with posting something. I may not have an answer but I will listen to you and help in any way that I can. If you are struggling with something, stress and grief we all know is not good when dealing with the beast, so express yourself; tell us what you are feeling. From what I have seen you will get nothing but support from the folks on this page. 2) Review the loss – Psalm 13:1-2 the point of all of this is don't try to quickly replace a loss, but review it ... in other words, go over it. The world around us tells us to replace the loss as soon as possible. Turn the page. Fix it quick. Move on. Don't hang out in sad places because it'll ruin your karma. I believe that the U.S. is a quick fix society anyway, we want it and we want it now, and grief or sorrow is just another thing that falls into that category. Scripture teaches exactly the opposite. Scripture indicates that we need to hang out in the sad place long enough to allow the full effect of the loss to settle into our souls. I cannot stress enough that it does not mean we need to spend the rest of our life wallowing in grief or sorrow. Psalm 13 is an example of David dealing with his grief. He is truly feeling the effect of the loss. Then, he reminds himself that God will take care of him. Good Christian counselors advise people to feel the full effect of their grief, talk about it openly and thoroughly. People that try to run away from it, rather than feel it and deal with it, bury a lot of junk and emotions that will, sooner or later, explode. Have you ever felt like that, you are dealing with so many emotions that you are going to explode? Many want to run from their pain. They want to replace pain with another feeling as soon as they can. To recover from pain, you have to face it. You must stand in it and process it before it will dissipate. I think that's the way God has built us. Again, that's what David is doing in Psalm 13 ... he's processing the pain, and not just simply running away from it by replacing it with other emotions. Don’t try to sweep it under the rug by not thinking about it or by pretending it didn’t happen. Feel what you feel, acknowledge it and give it to God to heal. 3) Share the burdens with others Gal 6:2. Before I start hearing the Bible contradicts itself in Gal 6:5 when it says we should bear our own burdens. Let’s get this out of the way right up front. There are in the Scriptures eleven different words that are translated by our one English word burden. This means there are different kinds of burdens. There are some burdens that you can share; there are burdens that you must bear and you cannot share them with anyone. A burden that we cannot share is Meniere’s disease or any disease. We have to bear the load alone. We cannot give one of the symptoms to someone else to carry for us. We can share our feelings about it, but the disease and all of its physical problems are a burden that we have to pack on our own. One of the burdens that we share with each other is the burden of Grief or sorrow. Have you ever been so down and out about something that it felt like a weight on your shoulders? Believe I would rather carry a pack of rocks on my back rather than trying to carry the burden of grief alone. Here again I believe this is what this part of the forum is all about. Share you load. It don’t take a bus load of common sense to figure out that the more people there is to carry a load, the easier it is to carry. I know that we all cannot be physically together to share our grief and burdens but we can share through our posts. I may not physically be able to pat you on the back and give you a hug but know that when I send you hugs I mean it. If I was with you I would give you one. How many times have we told a friend what was on our mind and what was on our heart that we have felt better afterwards? 4) Ask the Holy spirit to do His work of healing in your life John 14:15-19. “Holy” and “Spirit” describe Him, but Comforter is His name, if He has a name. It is a very fitting name, as com means “along side of” and fortis means “strong.” He is the strong One who abides with us forever. I cannot tell you the times that I have felt the Holy Spirit with me. Just had the calm come to me and KNOW in my heart that it is bad now but I am going to get through it. No matter the situation to me that is one of the coolest feelings. When the Holy Spirit is working with you, I just love that feeling. Want to close with this little poem, and remember I am here for ya. This forum and especially this part of it, is a place where you will find an open ear that will listen to ya and a heart that will help share your grief. Is thy cruse of comfort failing? Rise and share it with a friend, And thro’ all the years of famine It shall serve thee to the end. Love Divine will fill thy storehouse, Or thy handful still renew. Scanty fare for one will often Make a royal feast for two. Lost and weary on the mountains, Wouldst thou sleep amidst the snow? Chafe that frozen form beside thee, And together both shall glow. Art thou wounded in life’s battle? Many stricken round thee moan; Give to them thy precious ointment, And that balm shall heal thine own.