Retaking Control of My Life

Discussion in 'Your Living Room' started by VikingMan, Feb 27, 2015.

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  1. VikingMan

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    So I guess I just have to get used to people advising me to go under the knife? Okay. But yall are going to have to listen to me pose questions in response.

    Truly honest questions forthcoming. There are flaws in how you are thinking of the passage of time and the value of your experience and knowledge.

    You DIDN'T have the knowledge then that you have now. How could you? Time machines have not been invented yet. In making such statements, you are in essence offering me the value of your knowledge based on the assumption that it will prove useful to me, based on the assumption that my disease will progress as yours did and that mine will respond to various therapies as yours did. Yet my disease and yours could be very very different. Some of the most plausible theories I have read about this disease suggest multiple etiologies. Your assumptions are just that... assumptions. They are not based in fact. There are also therapies available now that weren't available 15 years ago. And if your experience with pursuing other solutions had proved fruitful as it has to so many others, many of whom got help from this forum, then what you think you know now would be different than it is, right? So do you truly advise someone still fairly early in the curve of this disease to pursue invasive radical sugery with very serious risks over taking lots of vitamin c(or whatever other alternative therapy) for a couple months? I can always proceed to invasive procedures later on. But I can't go back if I go there now. As I have said before. There is a reason your doctor didn't recommend a VNS or a laby when you first walked into his office.

    A VNS isn't a cure all. I've read a little about it. It might actually make sense for me right now given the fact that I still have some hearing left in my bad ear and this disease is proving to not be mitigated with simpler solutions. But it's not full proof and there are serious risks involved. They can accidentally cut the auditory nerve in addition to the balance nerve and you are deaf. And I don't think even a choclear implant can fix that, can it? The nerve has been severed. They can accidentally damage the facial nerve, in which case half your face is paralyzed. Or, you can have anatomical anomolies that means SOME of the balance nerve resides in the auditory nerve strand, meaning they can't cut all the balance nerve, which they can't know before or during surgery. The only way you find that one out is after the fact when you are still having vertigo. In that case, you would continue to experience some of the symptoms of this disease. You can also experience bleeding or hemorage. Infection. Lots of risks.

    Not to mention that thanks to Obamacare, the only insurance I can now afford is a high deductable plan. So getting a VNS is kind of like buying a car. I'll be paying it off for years. God help me if I should have other medical expenses for one of my kids or something. I could go bankrupt!

    Thanks for sharing your knowledge. In doing so however, a number of your assumptions are flawed.

    For what it's worth, I WILL have by life back one way or another. I am set on my course. I will give these alternative therapies a certain amount of time. If I am still experiencing debilitating symptoms, I'll take more dramatic steps. But I'm not going there right off the bat. I would like to not be dizzy, have my hearing and NOT have someone cut my skull open or inject harsh chemicals into my ear. I don't want much. It's a simple request. lol And if I can have it, then I WILL have it. There is only one way to find out.

    Thanks for your input.
     
  2. Chrisk

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    I have no problem answering your questions, that's why I still frequent this board. You're right about a couple of things, assumptions and risks. I could make assumption after assumption that the VNS would not work for me but I made the assumption that it would work and I took the risk and was rewarded.

    A common saying of "if I knew then what I know now" is used all the time, I was expecting you to understand the point, but if you want to go literal on me that's fine. I have an old high school friend who was DX with MM when she was 51 years old, (I was DX at the age of 35), she heard about my experience and since we were still in contact she asked me to share my experiences, we went out to dinner a few times and I shared with her what I went through and she was able to take the steps necessary to identify exactly what she had as quickly as possible. After going through all the test and experimentation she and her doctor decided that she did in fact have classic unilateral MM, she tried JOH and antivirals and again quickly found them to be ineffective, I followed her progress closely and offered my opinions. After careful thought, discussions with me, her doctor, and her family, she decided to progress to a Mastoid Shunt in a little over two years after DX. She has been vertigo free since.

    I was DX in 1984 long before the internet and had no one I knew who had the experiences of MM like I do now, hence I suffered for 15 years. Knowing what I know now I would never recommend anyone wait 15 years for surgery. However, also knowing what I know now I would never recommend anyone to rush to surgery. Especially without attempting every available non-intrusive method. I have done a little reading on the subject as well and I know many people who have received levels of relief with JOH, anti-virals, and even none medicinal therapies.

    VNS is not a "cure all" and I never said it was, I said it stopped the vertigo attacks, it also stopped the brain fog and constant dizzys, but in the fight of MM that's at least 90% of the battle, I can function at 99%, which is well above what level of function I had pre-surgery, plus I have the benefit of living my life without the worry of "will I have an attack today?" Yes my tinnitus is bad some days and even worse on others, my hearing in my bad ear sucks, but it was bad pre-surgery as well. I selected the VNS because preserving what little hearing I had left was important to me, those who select the Laby lose all their hearing in the operated ear.

    I don't know how long you've been fighting the battle, you definitely have the right attitude, and I'm sure you'll come to the solution that fits you best, but to ask those of us who have had success with surgery to stop "banging the drum" is just wrong. Others have the right to hear success stories, success is within almost everyone's grasp. You're right about a few other things, MM is different with all of us, and the battle is hard and not without risk. The discussion of what's the best solution has been going on for decades. The hardest part of the discussion is what's best for me may not be what's best for you, however, you need to make that decision, no one can make it for you, but I would be doing you and every other MM sufferer a disservice to not discuss what worked for me.

    I hope that you slay this beast, in fact I hope everyone does, and after seeing your approach I have faith that you will be successful in whatever you decide. Good luck
     
  3. VikingMan

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    I never asked you to not post about your success. Just not on the thread I started detailing my attempts at alternative resolution wherein I have now repeatedly stated I'm not having surgery first! Heck. I wouldn't even have minded if one or two folks posted and asked if I had considered labys or nerve sections. Now that we have for the 4-5th time established that I have, can we drop it please?

    Why do you guys feel the need to like convince me that my approach won't work? As if I am some kind of fool for not taking you at your word and assuming that your experience will be mine...

    I don't care that you share your success story. Another guy just posted a success story in the "Living Room" board and I posted that I was happy for him. He used gentamiacin injections and now has his life back. Good for him! I even had a couple questions and I asked them. I don't plan on getting a gent injection anytime soon, but I'm not saying he shouldn't have, nor am I upset he posted about it.

    The issue is not that you guys believe in the things that have worked for you. I'm happy that they have. The issue is that I wanted this thread to be a fairly consice record of my attempt at alternative resolution. Good grief. We've now expended probably half of the posts in this thread on this exact topic. I've already said I don't want to go there yet.

    If you want to go post your success story. Please do... somewhere else. I already understand my options and the chances of success with each.

    For what it's worth. I can't imagine having been diagnosed in 1984. You truly were very alone and had very little to go off of. The internet has been one of the greatest equalizers in human history in terms of knowledge. Anyone can learn about anything, anytime.
     
  4. VikingMan

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    Perhaps this is the issue here. This bit of your post is both right and wrong. Yes, this forum is for everyone. No, this THREAD is not for everyone. I started it so I could detail and dialog about MY attempts at alternative resolution. Anyone can post in it, but there is a reason it has a title and logs ME as the one who started it. It's an issue of... netiquette, for lack of a better word. As the internet evolved, forums like this developed a kind of code of conduct. I've posted in these kinds of forums for many years. When a person starts a thread, that thread kind of belongs to that person. Posting in that thread is analogous to walking into someone's living room. I don't walk into your living room and tell you how to arrange the furnature. I might suggest a different color for your couch, but you are the one who lives there so it's none of my business if you don't want to listen to me.

    I am interested in hearing constructive comments and criticisms. I think I'm done with people trying to convince me to go under the knife.... "if I knew then what I know now, I would never have chosen a green couch! Totally wrong color." Well, I happen to like green. :D
     
  5. nicmger

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    VikingMan - I will put in my two cents and then like a couple of others, will bow out of this topic.

    My view is that this is an open forum where people post typically with the understanding that there will be many readers, responses, opinions, etc. I understand your excitement in wanting to share what you believe has worked for you, by the same token because people who visit this board read everything I think it is very fair when people comment on what has worked (or not) for them. There are some new visitors that may only initially read the last most recent posts so I think it is awesome that no matter what there is someone that shares another potential option - since not everything works for each person.

    Each person has their threshold of what is enough and what is acceptable. For as many that believe that surgery is a last resort, the same number would immediately feel the same way about the need to buy and take handfuls of assorted vitamins and supplements every day. It is an individual choice.

    I don't believe that anyone is trying to force you to reconsider but to share their findings after years of suffering. There may be someone who read one of the posts and realized that they had enough and wanted to get 100% fixed, another who learned about JOH, etc..In all posts, not just yours, multiple options and questions are talked about. Generally I would believe that a post is made in the hope of encouraging conversation, learning and soliciting other thoughts.

    If your thought/intent is to simply document your findings and trials then perhaps starting your own blog might be an option that would ultimately make you happier and less irritated with people posting in this type of forum environment.

    I am happy for you that you have found something that you believe works for you; and may work for many other people. And I hope that the treatment does everything that you need/want it to do to regain full control of your life. Good luck!
     
  6. VikingMan

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    Well see. That's part of the problem. I first learned about many of these potential alternate therapies from THIS board! I started this thread here because I hoped to have folks comment and contribute on my efforts because it seemed to me at the time that those with the experience to offer such commentary were again... here. And when I start posting about my attempts to find a solution based on that, I get all these people telling me that if they knew then what they know now.... they would pick the scalpal instead. Hense my confusion. I mean, have you read through the database here? Not a whole lot of information on labys or nerve sections. lol Basically because I'm sure the mods thought that this is primarily an information center for alternative approaches that aren't strictly speaking, always medically approved. If I want to hear about a nerve section, I'll go ask my ENT or hit some university hospital's website. There is MUCH information on the net about traditional approaches to dealing with this disease, which as we all know often SUCK. High dose vitamin C or antiviral? Not so much information out there.

    You truly think I'm reading too much into all this? Because to me it feels like they are suggesting that my course of action is flawed. I've now had like 4-5 different people suggest that the course of action I am taking is not what they would do if they knew then what they know now. Should Solari have taken that advise when he started taking high dose vit c?

    I'm genuinely confused here man. Like I said before, there seems to be a huge dichotomy of sub cultures here and that's why I used the term, laby preacher.

    I'm not asking you all to leave. I'm asking you to stop trying to convince me to get surgery. That's it.
     
  7. nicmger

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    With all due respect, you might need to research/search the old archive database as this particular board started less than a year ago and all of the years of history prior are in the old archives. People have moved/copied/added some information to the data base but probably not representative of the years of discussions and successes (for surgery, no surgery, JOH, etc..).
     
  8. VikingMan

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    I am aware of the change in forum. And the moderators copied all the threads from the old database, right? Actually, no they did not, they only copied some of them. Why only some? lol

    I looked through the old database and see 1 thread in 3 pages of threads that is overtly related to surgery. Perhaps the subject is discussed in some of the other threads but it is obviously not the topic of those threads and so I must conclude that the moderators obviously didn't feel it needed a whole lot of coverage here given the nature of this community and it's aims.

    So my questions from my last post still stand. I started this thread with the hopes of hearing commentary from those knowledgeable in alternative treatments, especially the ones I am using. I didn't start this thread to be convinced to get surgery instead from the few folks who have had the unfortunate experience of not being successful elsewhere. Can you not understand my confusion and the source of my irritation?

    I like the green couch dammit! :D
     
  9. hurricaneone

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    You know Viking Idont care if you have the Laby , VNS or Gent that is your call. I will from time to time share what happened to me with this board. You see when I was at my lowest point my brothers and sisters on this board rallied behind me and helped me . I did everything you are doing 9 gent shots , IV vit C , shunt surgery, John of Ohio, nucca, no salt plus some I cant even remember. I pray that something really works for you other than what I did. You know my hearing was good enough to save in the beginning but eventually got very bad and then the dreaded drop attacks came which left me with only a couple of choices and thank God I chose the Laby. We are not preaching Laby to you we are just sharing our journey with you and other readers. Well now I am done with posting on any of your threads, I will from time to time read your results and I want you to beat this with vitamins or vit C . Have a Blessed day. Larry
     
  10. redwing1951

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    Kicking a dead horse? My last post with you too. I have been on this board for over 3 years and have never encountered anyone with your attitude. We all want what is best for you, amen. I am out.
     
  11. VikingMan

    VikingMan Guest

    Yeah, how dare I have a problem with being spoken to condescendingly. :eek:

    Bye.
     
  12. VikingMan

    VikingMan Guest

    7.5G of vit c today. I've also upped my dose of MSM, I was only taking half of what the bottle said I could. It's also supposed to be good for joints and my shoulders have been cranky lately. Too many pushups. :)

    Tinnitus rather quiet today, very quiet in my good ear. Hearing decent.
     
  13. Chrisk

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    You start a thread in a public discussion forum then get testy when people have the audacity to reply, simply because they're sharing their experience, (which is what you did when you started the thread,) about experiences that although successful, are not what you want to hear? Really?

    Here's a clue for you, if don't want people to reply in a public discussion forum, than don't start a thread, start your own blog. That way it will be far easier for us to ignore your experiences, just as you want to ignore ours.

    How's that for condescending?

    Clue number two, you reap what you sow.

    C-ya
     
  14. VikingMan

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    To refresh your memory...

    From the very first line of the very first post in a thread I started titled Retaking Control of My Life... Who's life? VikingMan's life. The "New Thread" link on the Living Room homepage is available to all if you want to go talk about your experiences. Why do you think it a good idea to post, unwantedly and off topic in someone else's thread? These kinds of forums tend to stay topical. Discussion can wander from time to time and that is to be expected, but you clearly don't really understand the nature of internet forums.

    I intended this to be a journal. I detailed my medical history and gave the rough outlines of the protocols I am attempting to use. I did so with the intent of creating a record of my hopefully successful attempt at mitigating this damned condition without invasive procedures and also with the hope of hearing commentary and indeed even criticism related to my efforts from folks knowledgable in said efforts. Many people have now offered me the "benefit" of their own experience(though under false assumptions that MY experience will be the same), which I gracefully took the first few times. When you guys persisted and began to rudely post, I began to object and IMO, kindly asked you to stop suggesting surgery as I don't want it yet.

    So yeah. Why are you still posting in this thread? lol Pitty there is no block function in PHP forums like there is on facebook. If you have no particularly useful knowledge of the things I am attempting to pursue other than they didn't work for YOU, then kindly restrict your comments to well wishes or nothing at all. I suppose I wouldn't object to commentary about the weather either. But there you are.
     
  15. Chrisk

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    Obviously you want this forum to be something completely different form it's intended purpose, it's no wonder you're disappointed.

    You want to make it your own personal blog, well good luck with that.

    Have no fear, I'll gladly stop posting in this thread or any other thread you may start.

    So sorry that you'll have to manually avoid/ignore those who were trying to help you.

    Don't worry about me though, I'm used to this forum and I don't find it that difficultly to manually ignore anyone.

    BTW there is a thread to discuss weather so please practice what you preach, and post your weather comments there.

    If you're going to make up forum rules as you go, be sure to try and follow those already in place.

    C-ya
     
  16. solari

    solari MM.org Janitor Staff Member

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    I've closed this thread as it was going nowhere fast.

    Also, regarding this:

    I want to be very clear these are *not* the rules here. This is an open forum where folks can participate in all threads as long as the "Four Agreements" folks agreed to upon registration are adhered to. Please do not attempt to "moderate" this forum or tell others how things should be done. It's not for you to say.

    Thank you,
    Ray
     
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