Death in the family - daughter is tying this for all of you

Discussion in 'Your Living Room' started by BumbleBea, Mar 4, 2017.

  1. marie

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    What a tragedy; I am so sorry for your loss. I didn't know your mother well. I do know that she cared enough about others to share her experience here and I for one greatly appreciate it.
     
  2. BumbleBea

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    Thanks everyone, wish I knew you all as well as my mother did. You made her have purpose in life to have a group of people to talk to with what she was going through. When Me and my family didn't know the full extent of her experiences and episodes from not having lived with it ourselves, we didn't quite understand it as well as you guys know what it's like. We tried to comfort her through the best we can when she was having an episode but you guys truest helped her and she helped you more then I even knew about up until recently. She was a truly blessed woman with so many people who loved and cared for her. I just only wished I was around more and not doing my own things and got the time to just sit and talk to her, just to be with her. She knew I loved her with all the night time kisses I've given her and I know she loved me, she wouldn't stop having kids till she met me. I just wish I was the perfect daughter that did everything as I was told, helped in ways I should have. I just didn't expect to lose her so soon and I'm the way that she did. I'll miss her everyday and I'll think about her always. I bet she's looking out for all of you where she's at. I miss her.
     
  3. moodymom27

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    Leesa, NO ONE is perfect and she did not expect that from you or any one. She was proud of you! It's awful she was taken so soon and not fair at all! But, do not beat yourself up or worry about all you wish you did. YOU were a good daughter to her. She knew you loved her. I know it's easier said than done. Hugs!
     
  4. Bulldogs

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    ^^^agree

    In our conversations through the years she would always tell me how much she loved you and how proud she was of you and all her kids. No parent, kid, spouse is perfect but shea leads told me how much she loved her family and how proud of the she was especially you..her daughter.

    You can always tell the character if someone by what they do when no one is watching and Gina/Bea was the same in private as she was in public.

    I will always cherish our PM's and Phone calls just to laugh at life, this crappy disease and what was going on in life. Sooo funny.....and she always spoke of her love for her family even when times were not the best and she was struggling with this disease. Family, kids and grandkids always came first....just as they should.
     
  5. tornadito68

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    My deepest condolences. Sorry for your loss. May she Rest in Peace.
     
  6. zotjen

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    So sorry to hear about this. My deepest sympathies.
     
  7. beeskerdog

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    Very sorry to hear of your loss - I always looked for posts from Bea - interesting and always with humor. With this disease humor is very important.
    Take care - John
     
  8. PleaseNoDizzy

    PleaseNoDizzy Active Member

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    I am so sorry for your loss. Bea was a wonderful contributor here and really cared about everyone.
     
  9. BumbleBea

    BumbleBea Fallen Angel

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    Update on my mom

    Her funeral is tomorrow at brown and sons funeral home in Nutley, NJ. I think if you go on their website you can order flowers for her
    http://www.legacy.com/funeral-homes/new-jersey/nutley/sw-brown--son-funeral-home-inc/fh-4695
    It'll be from 3pm to 8pm.

    We're gonna have mass for her at st. Lucy's church in Newark NJ at 11 am.

    Why mom is going to be cremated because that's what she told my father she wanted and Friday my dad will bring her back home.


    Also the township of Toms River called yesterday about my moms case and right now it's said that the 19 year old who ran her down isn't getting charged criminally or any other charge for that matter. You can imagine our pain right now. I normal person going 35 miles per hour and hit my mom on the street, she probably would had a fighting chance to survive but under the circumstances he was going a lot faster according to the video we have of her being hit. This makes no sense why they think this kid was innocent. I just don't know what to do anymore, I'm so destroyed.
     
  10. moon

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    So sorry to hear about this. My deepest sympathies.
     
  11. AEC

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    My condolences.
     
  12. Muff

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    Your mom was a such a caring, loving woman who helped all of us here so very much! I am so so sorry for your loss and I will keep your family and friends in my prayers. Please take care!
     
  13. Pakrat3

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    I am sick over this news! Thoughts, prayers, and condolences to you and your family. She will be greatly missed. She was a huge inspiration to many people in this community.
     
  14. Jimmy Alvin

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    Still having trouble dealing with Bumblebea's passing. I was talking to her just hours before her parting and she was so nice and caring. I feel like things are just going downhill for me on so many levels, and now this. I am trying to find something positive to hang on to. I do believe in possibilities for life after death. I can't imagine the pain her family is going through.
     
  15. yanksgirl

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    So sad for all here and for her family! Do hope you are getting the much needed support you were hoping for in your last posting.
    It's 'no fun' feeling like many of us do here, dealing with the anxiety/depression it causes and feeling like--'I want my life back'!
    I know I say that--pray for that often and I know many here do the same.
    Yet--we all do 'keep on keeping on' and some days are better than others.

    I see my Neuro ent tomorrow--and have another hearing test (my hearing is not good at all with new hearing aids). Tinnitus has returned and can be really nerve wracking at times--but then eases up. I have an appt. with a Neurologist sooner than expected. Got moved up to the first part of April.

    So--things are looking up--if only these appts. have something encouraging for me.
    Take care and keep in touch here. We all need each other's support.
     
  16. BayMama

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    I am checking in after a bit of a hiatus and am shocked and so sad to read this news.

    Thank you Bumblebea's daughter for letting us know what is going on. I think this disease is very difficult on the family members, and I am hugely grateful to mine even if they aren't graceful about 100% of the time, they do so much and have to accommodate in so many ways. From everything I'm reading, know that you must have been such a big, appreciated, beloved support to her. I am so sorry for your loss and hope you are getting whatever you need to work through this jarring, unexpected, and unwanted change.

    I have almost been hit by cars myself crossing the street because of the way my hearing loss (particularly since it fluctuates) messes with my hearing. Whether this was a factor for Bumblebea or not, I find this frightening to the core. I am trying to make a habit of looking very carefully both ways, even if I don't think I hear anything.
     
  17. BumbleBea

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    Thanks everyone.

    Knowing what I saw and done the night my mom was killed, it's haunting. I couldn't revive her, no one could have. She was just gone when she got hit. It was the speeding that did it otherwise she might have survived the incident. I almost thought that knowing cpr that this was a calling to save her life, that I could have done something to save her. I don't know what god was thinking when he took such a caring person from us all and what I'm supposed to have possibly learned from all this. For the longest time I believed that everything happens for a reason.... why this..... after everything she has been through, she's gone through it. I just don't get it, I'm having a hard time adjusting to what happened almost as if it was all a dream. She's gone, I'm gone... I'll never will be the same without her.
     
  18. imback

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    I understand your feelings. I often wonder why people drive so fast? Where are they going? Or what are they running from? It is an epidemic. Prayers, in time your grieving will diminish. Obviously, right now not so much. Take care.
     

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