Supportive partner

Great that you care so much and want to support him, some are not fortunate enough to have a supportive partner.

I would think, not making negative comments when he feels he cant make a certain event, occasion, appointment, acitivty etc.
When we (people with MM) need to cancel due to our symptoms we not only feel disappointed about not being able to go, we feel guilty about ruining things for others and angry that we can't do things like others can.

 

I think the biggest problem with this disease is the invisible suffering, you can't see when he's dizzy or his tinnitus is roaring, yeah you'll know when he's having a full blown attack, but the day to day stuff especially the brain fog is hard to deal with because you just can't see it.

When he acts crazy give him the benefit of the doubt, or better yet ask him how he's feeling, hopefully he'll be honest and not be a macho man and keep it to himself.

Vicki has some good points, when I was suffering sometimes I just didn't want to do anything but lie around all day, sure you should encourage him but try and stay tuned to how he's reacting, and if you feel that tonight's not the night for the big dinner out, let him know you're happy to reschedule when he feels better.

Meniere's was a definite contributor to my first marriage's failure. The ex-wife just couldn't deal with the stuff she couldn't see.

 

I think anybody with menieres owes it to their spouse/partner to take any and all steps that are available to them. If that means vns, laby ect.... So be it.

I there is a way out of vertigo then one should take it, I find it selfish not to use all the tools in the shed for the benefit of lived ones.

 

Love the person without any labels attached. Meniere's is a label. I'm sure this person is more than his/her diagnosis.

When I am sick, I don't want anybody attending to me or hovering upon me unless I ask for help. Find out what exactly this person means by "help" and extend it in times of need.

As far as support is concerned, I believe the Beatles line sums it up, "In the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make."

Take care of yourself as well. It's important to not become entangled in your partner's life to the degree where you don't have one of your own.

 

Excellent advice from members already. I don't have anything to contribute in addition to that which has already been mentioned, though you may also want to browse For Friends & Families of Menierians on the old forum.

Ray, is it possible to add the above topic to the new forum?

 

Shit. Sorry. Attempt no. 2

For Friends & Families of Menierians

 

Thanks, I didn't know there was an old forum. I'll read up on it.