I think what both sides need is understanding, patience and empathy, not guilt. There are definitely periods of frustration for all involved but we need to remember what brought us together in the first place. We have been together 50 years married 48 of those. We all need to vent occasionally. I appreciate your response.
Bulldogs, I'm nowhere near ready for the risk of any surgery. In fact, since I finished my 3 month trial of Valocyclovir, my hyperacusis has faded and I returned to the roar of tinitis as the only symptom. This is were I was at when I started the AV. I always seem to have opposite reactions to meds. Now I am only consuming the JOH regemin. It was JOH that reduced my Vertigo and dizzy spells by nearly 100%. Not sure what I will try next as I am just tired of the BS from ENT's who don't know as much as I do about MD. I'm tired of wasting time, karma and $$ and I have read enough to know the surgeries have limited success as well as anything else. "I guess we're all in the same crazy boat. Both the healthy and the unhealthy". I think this hits the mark pretty well. I meant nothing degrading by my gender response. I believe MD has no favorites regarding gender. I am simply losing my desire to be social. "--OneDay, where in Arkansas do you live? I lived in Little Rock." . I Don't live in AR yet. DW and I are trying to pick our spot. Likely gonna be in the Yellville/Mountain Home area. "There's something so great about that sentence.". It must be the part about "Just me, my boat and fishing" as nothing else about my remark peaks my attention. I'm glad so many derived some value from this thread. While I really could use an alone vacation, the next planned vacation is a trip to AR for Thanksgiving week. The entire family is going as that is where I am at right now. Planning to fish, float, shop and look at real estate. We have a big cabin reserved. I know I will get some alone time when I sneak off to enjoy a cigar. Nobody in the family can stand this disgusting, once in a blue moon indulgence of mine ;D.
I'm sorry TLB. That was a tough read. But touching as well. I asked my gf friend the other night if she was pulling away from me. She adamantly said no. But she's starting to not come over much. Which I understand. And I told her I didn't mean my question as an accusation. I'd never guilt anyone into being my gf. I'd be terribly broken up if she left me. But no resentment. I haven't been much fun in 3 years, and she happens to be a fun loving girl. Part of the recent problem is she thought I'd be better after my VNS surgery a little over a month ago. She's getting impatient, frustrated. As am I. God bless us all.
I'm sorry for you Pupper. Hopefully you will start improving after your surgery. I know exactly how you feel though, I feel as though I've lost so many friends simply due to me being anti-social. It's a very solitary world we live in, which is hard when you used to be such a social person!