I don't want to be a Debbie Downer but I find these celebrations very difficult. Not everyone has wonderful memories of their mom...the day can be difficult for many. That being said I do hope you enjoy your day.
I thought it'd be fun to remind the guys. You know how that goes. My Mother's Day will be spent seeing my youngest grandson make his First Holy Communion in the same church we were married in, all my kids were baptized there. Everything else in between. It's wonderful to see my children carrying on a family tradition. It's an absolutely beautiful old church but the neighborhood just isn't the same. Mothers Day is what you make of it. I've had mom issues too. You know that.
I've definitely had my share of major mom issues too. I'm sorry it is such a difficult time for you, Red.
Like I said not just for me and not just Mother's day it's all the days that are suppose to be special like Father's day, Secretary's Day Boss Day I just think it puts a lot of pressure on folks. But I really do hope your day is special honest!
I do!! Cards today are outrageous. I love it when my grandkids make cards for us. Means so much more to me. I hope I didn't spoil your post you meant it to be a nice reminder and it is.
I have a box full of the handmade cards, pictures. I even have from the grands too. Some in frames. You didn't spoil anything.
I know what you mean. My mom, whom I just lost recently didn't believe in special days created by commercialism. Her philosophy was that we should be appreciating each other all the time, not just on designated days dictated by society. It has worked for us. So this being the first mothers day without my mom will be no different than any other day since she passed away. Maggie
I know how difficult Mothers Day will be for you Maggie and many others who have lost their moms. I hope you get through the day okay.
This is why I posted this early ladies. I thought we could come together and have different responses to Mothers Day. You see, for me, this will go down as the most special with so many others. But I won't be with my mother even though she was invited. She never comes to anything. My kids don't like her either because of course the we young boys with ears and heard everything. (Never think their kids can't know what's going on so sometimes it's better to explain things to them so they don't imagine about what it is exactly. Look at me just telling people this here. It wasn't my purpose. Hearing some responses touched me in ways...I don't know...
I lost my mom in 1984, she was 6 months younger than what I am now, when when she passed away. I go to her grave every Mother's Day and will this Sunday as well. Holidays are difficult for many people for various reasons.
Now I'm really thinking about familial relationships. I miss my grandmother so much. We really had good times together and I was with her when she passed. Before she passed she slid off her wedding ring and told me to wear it she'll be with me. I've never taken it off. I have so many good stories that override parental neglect. I try not to focus on the bad ones but I'm remembering them now. My MIL was more a mother to me than my mother was. I was 18 when I got married. She basically influenced who I am today BUT there were bad times, too there. My SIL is my sister. Now I'm not sure I'm happy that these memories have been brought back to me. Then again, you guys, I have both spectrums in my life. I'm going to think about everything and for each bad one I'm sure I'll find a good one with my children. If you've never had children...it's the most important, it's the most love you'll ever feel.
Oh, Vicki, I'm sorry you lost your mom when you both were so young. I don't think some people care one bit how others struggle on holidays as long they are having a good day, so what? I think your tradition of visiting your mom's grave on Mothers' Day is lovely. I am so grateful that my mom was compassionate. She taught me that no matter how cruel people try to be, treat them well as they likely have something missing in their lives that make them behave that way. I'll be thinking of you on Sunday, Vicki. Maggie
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